You Make Sense

Escapism, Living in Fantasy, and Idealizing Our Lives

Episode Summary

What if fantasizing is actually keeping you from the life that you want? On the surface, focusing only on the things you desire can seem like a positive thing, but in reality, it’s often a sign you have a protective part running the show. Through the lens of parts work, Sarah unpacks how fantasizing parts protect us, why they show up, and how not processing the past will inevitably lead to more suffering.

Episode Notes

Sarah breaks down how these fantasizing parts inform our actions and why life is not only meant to be easy and happy. You’ll hear all about how these protective parts can keep you from experiencing the good things in your life and why the world we live in fuels our obsession with fantasy. This episode is filled with tangible tools to help you process what was and anchor into the abundance already available to you in the present.

Episode Highlights: 

• [00:00] Introduction
• [01:34] Examples of living in fantasy
• [03:18] Understanding your protective parts
• [06:58] The two things fantasizing parts do and why
• [15:34] How fantasizing parts show up in adult life
• [25:10] Why we only grow through challenge
• [27:16] How fantasizing parts keep us from good things
• [35:41] The way our current world fuels fantasy
• [38:59] Building your capacity to be with what is
• [41:29] Question 1 – How do I make peace with aging?
• [49:26] Question 2 – What should I focus on when struggling with chronic illness?
• [58:45] Question 3 – How do I navigate not getting the thing I’ve always wanted?

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Quotes:

“A fantasizing part is always trying to figure out a way to keep us from what presently is [happening].” — Sarah Baldwin [0:06:15]
“The fantasizing part keeps us from the goodness right in front of us as a way to ensure that we are never harmed again.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:14:58]
“Life is not meant to be just goodness, everybody. That’s not what it’s about.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:25:10]
“My hope is that you can see here that you are a complex being.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:33:47]

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