Breakups aren’t just hard—they can feel completely disorienting, terrifying, or even impossible. That’s because we’re often not only grieving the end of a relationship as our adult self, we’re also navigating the pain, fear, and longing of our younger parts. In this episode of You Make Sense, we’ll explore why it can feel so difficult to leave or let go, even when we know deep down that a relationship is no longer right for us. Together, we’ll walk through how heartbreak reactivates old wounds, why love can feel confusing or even threatening to our protective parts, and how to begin creating the safety necessary to take our next right step.
Breakups aren’t just hard—they can feel completely disorienting, terrifying, or even impossible. That’s because we’re often not only grieving the end of a relationship as our adult self, we’re also navigating the pain, fear, and longing of our younger parts.
In this episode of You Make Sense, we’ll explore why it can feel so difficult to leave or let go, even when we know deep down that a relationship is no longer right for us. Together, we’ll walk through how heartbreak reactivates old wounds, why love can feel confusing or even threatening to our protective parts, and how to begin creating the safety necessary to take our next right step.
Episode Highlights
00:00 Intro
00:40 Signs It May Be Time to End a Relationship
07:32 How Dysregulation Can Keep You Stuck
13:36 How Do I Know If This Relationship Is Right for Me?
17:03 Anchoring Into Our Adult Selves
26:26 Your Partner Can’t Be a Perfect Parent to Your Parts
31:21 Why It's So Hard to Let Go of a Relationship That's Ended
35:14 Processing Grief
41:11 Question 1 - Healing in the Midst of Grief and Dysregulation
46:59 Question 2 - Accessing Healthy Aggression After Betrayal
50:57 Question 3 - Why It Can Feel So Hard to Leave
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