You Make Sense

Reclaiming Your Sexuality: A Conversation About Pleasure, Intimacy, and Safety

Episode Summary

Sexuality is a completely normal and inherent part of the human experience. However, many of us have learned to disconnect from our bodies, hide from our sexuality, or become oversexualized as a result of trauma or societal messaging. If you’ve struggled to feel fully alive in your sexuality, this episode will give you a tangible, step-by-step guide to help you come back into this embodied experience. You’ll learn two predominant reasons why we struggle with sexual intimacy, how culture and conditioning affect how we show up with others, and how childhood trauma impacts our adult romantic partnerships. Join Sarah for a conversation on pleasure, connection, and safety, and how qualities like embodiment, presence, and openness play a vital role in our sexuality, both with ourselves and with another person.

Episode Notes

Sexuality is a completely normal and inherent part of the human experience. However, many of us have learned to disconnect from our bodies, hide from our sexuality, or become oversexualized as a result of trauma or societal messaging. If you’ve struggled to feel fully alive in your sexuality, this episode will give you a tangible, step-by-step guide to help you come back into this embodied experience.

You’ll learn two predominant reasons why we struggle with sexual intimacy, how culture and conditioning affect how we show up with others, and how childhood trauma impacts our adult romantic partnerships. Join Sarah for a conversation on pleasure, connection, and safety, and how qualities like embodiment, presence, and openness play a vital role in our sexuality, both with ourselves and with another person.

Episode Highlight:

• [00:25] Human beings are inherently sexual beings
• [01:25] Sexuality has very little to do with the act of sex itself
• [02:50] 2 reasons we struggle to have the sexual aliveness we want
• [04:12] How society affects how we show up in our sexual life
• [09:10] Why it’s important to resolve trauma
• [10:50] How childhood trauma impacts adult sexual dynamics
• [18:00] What healthy sexuality requires of us
• [24:40] Parenting our parts to connect to our internal value
• [26:10] How we can begin stepping toward healthy sexuality
• [31:06] The importance of having agency
• [32:55] Being present in the natural unfolding
• [33:30] Ridding ourselves of the idea of it being a performative act
• [34:50] Sexuality should have an element of play
• [35:37] Question 1: How to fully explore yourself in moments of intimacy
• [40:40] Question 2: How to deal with past trauma that comes up during intimate moments
• [46:43] Question 3: Why we might use our sexuality to gain love

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