You Make Sense

The Secret to Actually Loving Yourself: Falling in Love with Your Younger Parts

Episode Summary

The world has done us a disservice by teaching us that we’ll magically love ourselves if we just “tell” ourselves how lovable we are. But the only way to wholly and fully come into self-love is to first fall in love with your younger parts. In this episode, Sarah offers an in-depth understanding of parts work, the different kinds of younger parts who inhabit your experience, and how to begin supporting and finding compassion for them.

Episode Notes

You’ll learn about the importance of consistency in reparenting your parts, why this process is about relationship-building, and how to find love for the protective parts of you that are often responsible for challenging behaviors or patterns. When you do this work, without having an agenda, it’s possible to feel self-love in a way that lasts and transforms every area of your life.

Episode Highlights:

• [00:00] Introduction
• [01:12] You can’t “talk” yourself into self-love
• [05:00] An overview of Parts Work (Internal Family Systems)
• [12:37] An explanation of how to reparent your younger parts
• [19:15] The importance of building trust with your parts
• [21:39] Loving both your vulnerable and protective parts
• [35:31] The integration process and making your parts whole with you
• [38:26] Question 1: Deciphering if choices come from truth or trauma
• [49:33] Question 2: Parts work when you’ve disconnected from memories
• [56:51] Question 3: The root of being self-critical about our bodies

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Quotes:

“We have to fall in love with all parts of ourselves; not just some of the parts of ourselves, all parts of ourselves.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:45]

“Whatever part that you’re working [with] is going to need something really different.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:30:49]

“We have to teach our parts what love is if they didn’t fully get to receive it.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:33:01]

“Everything you feel is a truth to a version of you, it just might not be a truth to adult you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:40:56]